Cultural influences teach us that we need to be better, richer, stronger, etc. It all leaves us feeling so… not enough. But that’s not the truth. You are NOT broken! Here’s how to find your way back to the truth.

© Karim MANJRA | Oasis, Casablanca, Morocco

Becoming an adult happens whether or not we have guidance. No matter how much guidance we might get, there’s always a harsh learning curve. And as we get deeper into our independence, our self esteem takes a real beating. The world is not as welcoming as we thought it would be. Amidst our struggles to fit in, we tend to examine ourselves and wonder “ What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I do what others do? Why is life played so hard?

I know that last question is grammatically incorrect but it’s meaningful to me. I once found an…


When a child grows up with a learning impairment or physical disability, the way their parent deals with it will make a world of difference in that child’s quality of life. Case in point, what follows is a first-person account I stumbled upon

© Engin Akyurt

There are some things that we as persons, born on this planet, have no control over. Our own birth defects are included in that scenario. While there are those who believe that we ourselves choose what obstacles we must face and overcome in this life, prior to our earthly birth, I am not one who buys that. I did not choose to be born deaf.

Be that as it may, I entered this world with a 70% hearing loss in both ears. It didn’t take my mother long to recognize my hearing deficiency. She had been born a hearing impaired…


When I was a teenage girl, I was obsessed with my looks. Sure, it paid off by getting lots of attention from the boys. But that’s not really such a good thing. It distracted me from my real purpose. It caused me to be exploited and abused.

© Zulmaury Saavedra

At the same time, I was athletic and ambitious. If professional sports had been a veritable path of employment for girls the way that it is for boys, I’m quite sure I would have tried to be a professional athlete.

But instead, I was obsessed with my looks — with attracting boys, and having lots of attention.

I wish that I had not.

I wish that someone had told me to become obsessed with something that mattered… something that would empower me and increase my self-esteem rather than burden it.

So if you are a young woman contemplating whether or…


The following poem was originally shared in a 1937 book about building wealth. I first read the book when I was only 15 years old. It shaped my personality to be more assertive and even ended up starting my own brick-and-mortar business by age 23. This tiny lesson made a big difference! It’s an important lesson that has stayed with me through all kinds of negotiations. Not just in business but also personally.

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Everything in life is a negotiation. We don’t always get what we ask for. But if we don’t ask, then we just end up with leftovers after…


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I once read that children notice how their parents react to them when they appear.

››› Do we smile and seem happy to see them?

››› Do we even bother to look up from what we are doing?

››› Do we greet them with criticism or pleasantries?

››› Do we start giving orders without even greeting them?

At the time of reading that article my daughter was about ten years old. When I first observed my own behavior in this situation, I was humiliated to find that I was so immersed in my own business that most times I did…


If it isn’t “we” — then happy “me” day!

Originally published for single clients when I owned a matchmaking agency

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Valentine’s Day is here, so I’m told. Oh yes, many have reminded me on a daily basis leading up to this day. I’d like to think that I hear so much about that day because, after all, I’m in the business of helping people find love! But the truth is that I remember hearing just as much about that dratted day before love became my career. Back when I was single, I definitely heard the warnings of Valentine Day’s approach more than I would have liked to.

Still now…


Spicy advice for ladies to affair-proof their relationship

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There are two basic things that men secretly want. Everything they pursue — and all the problems they create — can be boiled down to these two things:

(one) they want to be in control of their lives

(two) they want to lose control in the bedroom

For centuries, many a woman has surreptitiously found ways to exploit this desire in men by asking for what she wants while in the bedroom. …


Ode to empowerment

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I will not let others’ behavior toward me
Determine the path of my future.
When the ignorance-bliss talk down to me
Or look through me as if I don’t exist
I will not prove them right by acting out
As they expect me to do.

I will stand above hatred
Rebuke prejudiced forecasts
And purge my own anger.
I will express myself as a loving, living,
Thriving and nurturing being.
Allowing the goddess within to breathe fire
Into the dark corners
Of my life and mind.

I will learn to find happiness
Within my own body, mind and spirit.
No man will…


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A lesson in personal identity

I live with the pigs
I eat with the pigs
I eat whatever the pigs eat
I sleep with the pigs
I play wherever the pigs play
I do whatever the pigs do
When I look out in the pasture, all I see are pigs
I think therefore, I must be a pig.

Moral of the Story

It’s easy to forget who we are when we surround ourselves with too much of one thing. There’s nothing wrong with hanging out in the pigpen — but if you’re not really a pig — then isn’t it nice to have options when the butcher appears?!

Pauline Wiser

Founding Editor of Wisertree.com ~ a database for life | not-for-profit network dedicated to sharing information that guides people through life

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